Gone Too Soon: Kyle Busch (1985-2026)

“But is there someplace far away, someplace where all is clear 

Easy to start over with the ones you hold so dear

 Or are you left to wonder, all alone, eternally 

This isn't how it's really meant to be

 No it isn't how it's really meant to be”

- “Always on Your Side” – Sheryl Crow

Although singer/songwriter Sheryl Crow’s single “Always on Your Side” from her fifth studio album, “Wildflower” released in 2005 was more about love lost than mourning the passing of a loved one, I’ve found it hard not to get emotional anytime I’ve heard it. Especially when I learn of someone, whether I knew them personally, or an icon who had legions of devoted followers, passed away too soon.



The list of iconic legends in the world of politics, entertainment and sports who went before their time is endless. Charlie Kirk. President John F. Kennedy. Robert F. Kennedy. Martin Luther King, Jr. John F. Kennedy, Jr. Diana, Princess of Wales. Chris Kyle. John Lennon. Kobe Bryant. Payne Stewart. Dale Earnhart. On May 21, NASCAR legend Kyle Busch joined the list at 41.

Lives unfinished.

I confess I knew almost as much about stock car driver Kyle Busch as I did about Charlie Kirk, the conservative political activist who founded Turning Point USA in 2012. Which is less than zero. As unfortunate as it may sound, I didn’t learn about the impact Charlie Kirk had on conservatives at college campuses and Kyle Busch’s racing fans until barely 24 hours after their untimely ends.

Kyle Busch with wife, Samantha, and their two kids.

Among the less than handful of fun facts I learned about Kyle Busch was the nickname, “Rowdy”, that was bestowed on him as a result of the run-ins he had with fellow drivers on the track. Busch’s nickname was inspired by Rowdy Burns, the villain race car driver Michael Rooker played in “Days of Thunder (1990).” A nickname the NASCAR legend had no problem and living up to.

“You come to the point where you’re like, ‘Okay, I’m going to wear this black hat. They want me to be the villain? Let’s do it.’ I went full in just being ‘Rowdy,’” Busch said on the “NASCAR Full Speed” television series. “I’m not going to say it wasn’t fun being the villain, because I was also winning. I don’t care. I’m going home with the trophy, and I’m going home with the check.”

As for Busch’s many achievements and awards he earned over the course of those 24 years on the track, information I had to do a google search on, go to Wikipedia, if you’re too lazy to get your information from a more trustworthy online source. You won’t find that list here. I’m sure if there are any NASCAR fans reading his blog, I wouldn’t be surprised if they asked themselves, “Why is he even writing a blog about Kyle Busch if he never followed much less heard of him?”

Charlie Kirk, with wife Erika, and their two kids.

There’s nothing wrong in shedding a tear for someone you didn’t know whether you were a fan or not or whether you liked their right or left leaning opinions that could often alienate their fan base. 

The reason I got emotional for Kyle Busch as I did for Charlie Kirk was because of the gaping void they left behind leaving two grieving widows, Erika Kirk and Samantha Busch, who’d now be raising their kids alone. It’s heartbreaking to know Charlie and Kyle, much like countless others who went before their time didn’t live to see their kids grow up. I can’t look at the YouTube video showing Kirk’s three-year-old daughter greeting her father on the “Fox & Friends Weekend” show last July now without my eyes watering just a little.

The same goes for Kyle Busch’s 11-year-old son, Brexton, who posted the photo of him hugging his dad Feb. 21 earlier this year on social media two days after his father's passing. The photo was taken moments after Kyle won the NASCAR Craftsman Truck Series Fr8 Racing 208 at Echo Park Speedway in Georgia.

The shot reminded me of that photo, taken Oct. 10, 1962, showing John F. Kennedy, Jr. and Caroline Kennedy playing in the Oval Office as the President clapped. A brief moment capturing happier times.

It’d be easy if I said how when such admirable figures pass away that most of us are realizing we are reaching the age, if we haven’t already, that life stops giving us things and starts taking them away. That may be so in the cases of notable Hollywood legends we’ve lost since last year (Gene Hackman, Val Kilmer, Diane Keaton, Robert Redford, Catherine O’Hara, Robert Duvall, Chuck Norris). Except those actors passed away in the twilight of their years leaving behind decades of movies and/or television shows to fondly look back on.

Kyle Busch’s sudden passing is like watching a biographical movie like Clint Eastwood’s “American Sniper” (2014) about Navy SEAL sniper Chris Kyle where I already knew how it ends and was unable to get that unsettling feeling I had in the pit of my stomach of what was to come two hours before the end credits rolled.



I wanted to yell at the screen near the film’s conclusion as Kyle (Bradley Cooper) kisses his wife, Taya (Sienna Miller), goodbye and heads out the door that fateful morning of Feb. 2, 2013, to meet a U.S. Marine Corps veteran who suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) at a shooting range. Kyle, 38, along with his friend, Chad Littlefield, 35, were shot and killed by Eddie Ray Routh, the person Kyle was attempting to help.

If only such unsettling moments can be rewritten the way Quentin Tarantino rewrote tragedy in his less than stellar and overhyped “Once Upon a Time… in Hollywood” (2019) where pregnant actress Sharon Tate (Margot Robbie) lives to give birth and Charles Manson’s cult followers meet justifiably violent ends.

If only…

A lot has been said in the sports world since the shocking events of May 21 about Kyle Busch’s final days and hours dating back to May 10 where he finished eighth place at Watkins Glen in Charlotte, N.C. in which he was heard radioing his team on the track requesting a doctor.

“Can somebody try to find Bill Heisel? He’s the kindred doctor guy. Tell him I need him after the race please,” Busch was heard. “I’m gonna need a shot.”

“I’m still not great,” Kyle told reporters on May 16. “But the cough was pretty substantial.” His final competition was the NASCAR All-Star Race May 17 at Dover International Speedway.



According to the Associated Press, Busch became unresponsive while testing in a Chevrolet racing simulator at Charlotte Motor Speedway in Concord, North Carolina May 20.

When Busch’s family released a statement on social media hours before his death May 21 that Kyle had been rushed to a Charlotte hospital in what was reported at the time a severe illness and would not be competing in any scheduled races Memorial Day weekend at Charlotte Motor Speedway, there’s no doubt his wife and kids, his racing team and the thousands of fans thought this was just a temporary setback.

“He will be back in no time,” wrote one user on X. “Probably just a stomach virus.”

It wasn’t to be. By May 23, the racing world learned of "Rowdy's" cause of death.

“The medical evaluation provided to the Busch Family concluded that severe pneumonia progressed into sepsis, resulting in rapid and overwhelming associated complications,” Busch’s family said in a statement.

I won’t be surprised if a year from now if Kyle Busch’s final days and hours become tabloid fodder for the REELZ show, “Autopsy: The Last Hours of…” where forensic pathologist Dr. Michael Hunter gives a much more graphic rundown of what killed the husband and father of two at just 41-years-old. A show that is NOT a celebration of the lives such notable figures lived as it is a warning to viewers of what NOT to do to your bodies. When your body’s telling you something isn’t right, one should listen. A lesson not all of us heed, myself in particular. Ignore the problem. It will go away has always been and continues to be my motto.

The lesson learned from Kyle Busch is perhaps the temporary realization of how fragile life is. Here today. Gone tomorrow. Time is a luxury none of us have.

When asked by a reporter why winning never gets old, Busch said “Because you never know when the last one is.”

A comment that was much more about the thrill of winning a race seems more prophetic now in its finality.

NASCAR fans are not the only ones reeling from their sudden loss. For someone who wasn’t a devoted follower, the next time I open up a bag of peanut M&M'S that my doctors list as the treats they don’t want me chomping down on because of my high blood sugars and A1C levels related to my continuing battles with diabetes, I’m going to find it hard not to recall that yellow M&M’S car Kyle Busch rode on the track promoting the much popular candy product.

©5/24/26

As emotionally cold and distant as the ice the hockey players compete on

Miracle ««½
PG, 135m. 2004

Cast & Credits: Kurt Russell (Herb Brooks), Patricia Clarkson (Patty Brooks), Noah Emmerich (Craig Patrick), Sean McCann (Walter Bush), Kenneth Welsh (Doc Nagobads), Eddie Cahill (Jim Craig), Patrick O’Brien Demsey (Mike Eruzione). Screenplay by Eric Guggenheim. Directed by Gavin O’Connor.

Midway through "Miracle", based on the true story of Coach Herb Brooks who led the United States hockey team to victory against the Soviet Union in the 1980 Olympics, is a moment where a few players want to have a word with their headstrong leader: stoically played by Kurt Russell.

The teammates are concerned about Brooks’ sudden decision to bring on a much more experienced hockey player to the group. Their concern is understandable. It’s bad enough knowing, as Brooks’ makes it perfectly clear at the beginning of the film, that only 20 of the 26 players he’s chosen can go to the Olympics and that as the weeks and months get closer, six of them will be let go. Some of the players have already bought their parents tickets to see them play. Now they have to worry about a guy who’s got enough experience in the game that they must wonder which of them will be cut for sure?

Brooks will hear none of it until finally, one of them speaks up and says the reason for their concern is because they are all like a family.

I have no doubt that what this team went through in the months before going up against a Soviet team who was not just our rival when it came to the Olympics (they won the Gold medal four times in 1964, ’68, ’72 and '76) but also our enemy when it came to world affairs made this group a close-knit family. I didn’t get that kind of closeness, however, watching the film.

"Miracle" is not only bogged down with familiar plot clichés of sports’ movies past that include Russell’s Brooks’ who is determined to get what had been denied him back when he was the same age as his players. There are rival team members who fight amongst themselves and have personal problems of their own. And Brooks’ loving wife (Patricia Clarkson) who stands by her man even though he tends to brush her aside letting his feelings for the game get in the way.

The film is also emotionally distant and at times, as icily cold as the rink the players compete on, or as chilly as the snowy weather gets at Lake Placid. Every time an emotional moment comes on, especially in the case of Russell’s character, something happens that keeps him from saying how he really feels.

That’s not to say "Miracle" isn’t without its surprising moments, many of which are ironically provided by Russell who steals the show, which stands to reason since he is after all the coach. In particular is a great scene where immediately following the team’s loss in Sweeden, Brooks orders all the players on the ice to practice skating drills long after the lights in the stadium have been turned off.

I tried hard to embrace "Miracle", almost as hard as Brooks works his team to the brink of exhaustion. It’s obvious the kind of mood the film’s studio, Walt Disney, was pushing for; to give us a feel good movie where we’re not just left in our seats cheering but perhaps maybe even shed a tear. You can tell this has the makings of a Disney movie just by the way the hockey games are shot. We see players ramming each other while others are hit so hard they fall into the stands. But there is no sense of excitement here, not to mention very little blood.

Imagine, for example, how director Oliver Stone would have handled shooting such action sequences. It’s a good bet I would have literally heard the sickening sounds of bodies colliding together the way I heard bones breaking in his ode to the NFL, "Any Given Sunday" (1999). Stone would have probably incorporated a time clock at the bottom corner of the screen to put us on edge as the game time gets closer to zero. He might have even provided us with a puck’s eye view as it is passed around from player to player before finally arriving at its final destination; the goal.

We get practically none of that here as the team plays several different games leading up to the climax. The mood director Gavin O’Connor and screenwriter Eric Guggenheim wanted to leave the audience with was a winning combination of both hope and pride in light of such depressing events as Watergate, the Cold War, and the Iran Hostage Crisis. Events of which gave Americans a feeling of uncertainty in the 1970s.

The problem in viewing this film is it’s hard to get past the fact a lot has changed in the 20 plus years since the 1980 Olympics. Russia is no longer our enemy. If this film had come out at around the time "Rocky IV" (1985) did back in the mid-1980s where Stallone’s Italian Stallion was seen going up against a towering Russian boxer and where our relations with the Soviet Union were still on shaky ground, I might have felt a little differently.

I know there are those who read this review will say I am being a little too hard on this movie suggesting I give the Mickey Mouse studio a break and say, “It’s Disney for God’s sake. They’re just trying to cater to the masses, hence their PG rating. "Miracle" is supposed to be a family film.”

The bottom line is I’ve seen far better sports movies that could also be deemed family films and also boasted the PG rating. They have not only either kept me on edge but also left me cheering and maybe even brought a tear to my eye. "Remember the Titans" (2000) was made by Disney and perhaps part of what made that movie work, aside from good acting was the fact Jerry Bruckheimer produced it.

The one film I associated "Miracle" with most was 1987’s basketball movie, "Hoosiers", simply because it had the same plot elements. In that film, which was also loosely based on a true story, Gene Hackman played a coach trying to redeem himself leading a high school basketball team who were faced with impossible odds. I got choked up when that movie ended as the camera focused on the photo of the team and you heard Hackman’s coach saying, “I love you guys.”

By comparison, "Miracle" is about a team who was also faced with impossible odds. This was a group of guys whose average age, as sportscaster Al Michaels said, was 21 years old and were going up against a rival team who had been playing hockey for 15 years or more. These Russian hockey players were towering monsters compared to the Americans. The fact the U.S.A. beat them not only made for an incredible victory but obviously a great story.

I would have loved to have been cheering the words, “U.S.A!” the way the spectators did back in 1980 when they watched our country’s team and the Soviets square off against each other. I would have been proud to have known this small close-knit family of hockey players as Aerosmith’s Dream On was heard playing during the end credits revealing what the real-life hockey players are doing today.

I admit I did kind of get choked up in the end of "Miracle" but it was for all the wrong reasons. For a movie that’s promoted to be a feel-good picture, the only emotion I was left with was one of lingering sadness over the fact Herb Brooks died shortly before filming began.

Originally Published 2/6/04

©2/23/26

Question should NOT be what will I give up for Lent but WILL I

Today begins the season of Lent.

Lent is that time of year Christians all over the world and us “lapsed Catholics” or “Chreasters” like me who according to the Urban Dictionary is defined as “someone who only goes to church on Christmas and Easter” are supposed to give up some vice we can’t live without the next forty days beginning on Ash Wednesday until Easter Sunday when Jesus Christ rose from the dead.

According to Christianity.com Lent is defined as the time Christ spent forty days and nights in the desert without food and water being tempted by Satan.

In short, we Christians are supposed to follow by Jesus’ example as a means to cleanse our sins (I haven't been to confession since Christmas Eve 1993) and be closer to God. According to crosswalk.com, however it seems Jesus Christ got the better end of the stick. His battle with Satan lasted only 40 days. In 2026 our time of fasting and giving up that one little thing between Ash Wednesday and Easter Sunday lasts 46 days.

Doesn’t seem fair, does it?

To be truthful, I have never taken Lent seriously which dates back to my early years in grade school at St. Louise de Marillac (1976-1984) being taught by the nuns. For much of the time from first grade to my entering junior high that’s all I heard from dad who asked me “what am I giving up for Lent?” God not only knows what I supposedly planned to give up but also knows how long it took for me to go back on my word hours later and scarf down candy, cookies and soft drinks.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve compared to my giving up something for Lent to the list of New Year’s resolutions I make up on December 31 as midnight approaches that I plan to accomplish the coming year. Every year the result is the same. I do not complete that list of resolutions, nor do I give up anything for Lent.

This year, however, I decided to take Lent seriously. I can’t explain the sudden change of heart except maybe the older one gets (certainly not the wiser in my case) one’s interests and attitudes change.

I remember the priest saying at an Ash Wednesday mass I attended one year how the one thing you give up for Lent should be something you can’t live without.

I’ve got less than half a handful of things I could go without the next six weeks.

Taking the Lord’s name in vain is one. God knows just how many times I say the “G” word multiple times on a daily basis whenever that Italian/Hispanic temper of mine kicks into overdrive – usually at work or behind the wheel.

Finding something else to say when venting my anger would indeed be a struggle if I gave that up. If I did so successfully the next six weeks, perhaps it will score me some brownie points with St. Peter as he goes through my long list of wrongdoings debating whether or not to let me through the pearly gates when I become one with the “Dark Side of The Force” and am called home by either the Almighty or 666.

I could give up diet cokes. I sometimes drink two or three a day. I know my liver and pancreas would appreciate it. So too would my doctor given my being diabetic in hopes my A1C blood sugar levels gets below six versus the 18 plus level it's been at for a while.

I could give up working the next six weeks and act like I am working. It’d be a great test to see how long I could get away with that.

I could give up pizza and pasta. The servers at Joe’s Pizza and Pizza Getti might miss me given how I always show up a couple days week and know exactly what I order and where I like to sit.

Such are the things I could give up for Lent with the exception of not working. I was only kidding on that one despite what the powers-that-be at work will say during their little private “Come to Jesus” meetings they schedule with me often.

I only know two things that will happen today - Feb. 18. One is whatever I give up that’s between me and God – yet another thing I heard a priest say which is whatever we give up should be private.

The other is I what I plan to eat after mass that day, if I go. My meal will either be a couple fish sandwiches from McDonalds with extra tartar sauce, a salmon bowl with rice and veggies at Red Lobster or assuming I don’t give up pasta for Lent, a large plate of angel hair with extra marinara sauce at Joe's Pizza (since I can’t eat meat that day).

Hopefully when the server asks what I want to drink I won’t say a Diet Coke and out of habit wind up drinking it not realizing that that might have been what I planned to give up.

That wouldn’t be a good start to the season of Lent now, would it?

©2/18/26

Gone too soon: John Fitzgerald Kennedy Jr. (1960-1999), Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy (1966-1999) and Lauren Bessette (1964-1999)

Writer's note: I'll address producer Ryan Murphy's latest nine-part episode "biographical" FX series, "Love Story," airing Feb. 12 (just in time for Valentine's Day) that covers the too-short lives of John F. Kennedy Jr. and his wife, Carolyn Bessette at a later time, if ever. 

As I posted under the heading, "ABOUT THIS SITE" I created this blog to write on subjects I want to talk about. "Not what the rest of the country and the world feels is the flavor of the day!" 

That being said, here is my tribute article I wrote back on 7/21/99 following the iconic couple's untimely ends along with Carolyn's sister, Lauren, that feels more appropriate than whatever embellishments Murphy's FX series conjures up as the "truth."

To those who were old enough and watched President Kennedy’s funeral in November 1963 to those who weren’t alive yet or too young to remember but have seen the historic yet heart breaking photo, John Fitzgerald Kennedy Jr. will forever be known as the little three-year-old son of the late president who saluted his father’s coffin as it rolled by that Thanksgiving weekend almost 36 years ago.

Today, that is still how I see him.

The sad, tragic weekend that began the night of July 16 was like a macabre, nightmarish sense of déjà vu that recalled the night Princess Diana was killed in a car crash in France in August 1997.

The way Princess Diana in 1997 and now JFK Jr, his wife, Carolyn Bessette, and her sister, Lauren, died are so similar, it is almost eerie. Both occurred in the summer and on weekends. I was at work when it was announced on the radio that Princess Diana, along with her boyfriend, Dodi Al Fayed, and their driver, Henri Paul, died in a car accident. I did not learn about the latest tragedy to strike the Kennedy family until Saturday afternoon when I turned on the TV and saw live coverage of naval ships and helicopters at sea off Martha’s Vineyard searching for something.

I had no idea what. For about ten minutes or so, the news coverage seemed like a cruel joke in light that July 17 was the day TWA Flight 800 exploded over the Atlantic three years ago killing 230 passengers and crew. I immediately figured the worst that maybe another jetliner had gone down. But then below the television screen came the words “JFK Jr’s Plane Missing” and to Americans, to me, and to the world, it was as if more than 200 souls were lost again that day.

It did not take long for the country to react to the news. New Yorkers laid flowers, memorial cards, and tributes down outside JFK Jr’s and his wife’s Tribeca apartment where the two lived in much the way people did outside Buckingham Palace when Diana died. Hundreds more visitors poured in at the graves of the late president and his wife, Jackie, at Arlington National Cemetery and at the Sixth Floor Museum, formerly known as the Texas School Book Depository in Downtown Dallas. Some wrote condolences in guest books. Others wept.

Like Diana who was dubbed in the press as “The People’s Princess”, flags were flown at half-staff for “The People’s Prince.” Outside the Kennedy compound in Hyannis Port, Ma., mourners left flowers while the press sat and waited to see which family members would come out next. Not even Caroline Kennedy Schlossberg, now the last surviving and most private heir to Camelot, could escape the media glare as she and her family awaited news at their own home on Long Island and began to make what has become an all-too-familiar scene for America’s most prominent first family, funeral arrangements. When she and her husband came out of seclusion a few days after the crash, the couple took a bike ride followed by the press. It was the couple’s 13th wedding anniversary.

It all seems a little silly yet poignant. Like Diana, why did Americans grieve over someone they never met but felt they knew through past press coverage and photographs? Perhaps they grieved over how tragic it was for such well-liked celebrities to lose their lives so unexpectedly at such an early age. Their life stories were biographies only half finished.

It seems by all news accounts, JFK Jr. lived life to the fullest dating various models and well-known Hollywood icons like Daryl Hannah before marrying Carolyn Bessette in 1996, playing sports, and trying different things that included flying. But it seemed the man, who People magazine called “The Sexiest Man Alive” years ago, was still trying to figure out what he wanted to do with his life whether it should be in politics or continue working as an assistant district attorney in Manhattan while involving himself in various charities.

Then in October 1995, he created and became editor-in-chief of George, a struggling magazine that parodied and treated politics as entertainment and featured several female celebrities on the front covers from Cindy Crawford and Madonna to Drew Barrymore and most recently, Salma Hayek. But there was a serious side to the publication as well. Over the course of the magazine’s three and half years, JFK Jr. interviewed such figureheads that included Gerald Ford, Colin Powell, George Wallace, and Louis Farrakhan.

Now the magazine is a collector’s item. The current issue out at bookstores immediately sold out the week of the tragedy and it is also being reported that the publication, whose profits have been down for some time, will likely fold. I will not be surprised if back issues of George are sold at used bookstores for $20 behind the counter inside plastic see-thru bags next to the July 1997 $20 issue of Vanity Fair that featured Diana on the front cover posing in a dress later auctioned off at Sotheby’s.

Now we are left asking ourselves, what would the future have held for the trio had they lived? Perhaps JFK Jr. would have pursued politics and run for public office like his father and uncles before him. Perhaps Carolyn would have involved herself in various note worthy causes. While Lauren would have lived her own life staying out of the media spotlight.

As the coast guard, navy ships and divers continued their “search and retrieval” efforts off the coast of Martha’s Vineyard, there was a certain sense of false hope in the back of my mind. I kept thinking the three were alive on some remote island awaiting rescue.

I knew the inevitable result as did everyone else. The search though, which ended July 21, finally brought a sense of closure for the Kennedy and Bessette families and for Americans. Days after the crash, we were told by the press what might have happened in those last moments as the private plane made its deadly descent. Questions have arisen over whether JFK Jr., who just received his pilot’s license last year, was experienced enough to fly at night.

It would be easy to say the fates of JFK Jr.; his wife and her sister could have been avoided. Some think it is a “Kennedy curse.”

Originally Published ©7/21/99

©2/11/26

My number one New Year’s resolution for 2026 is…

Last week’s blog I wrote how I don’t take New Year’s resolutions seriously got me thinking despite my beliefs on the subject there are a few things I have been needing to do the past several years but never had the energy to begin much less complete them.

As I came up with that list of things to complete for 2026, I came up with what should be my one and only resolution for this year. Read on if you wish to know what that is, if you even care.

Here are nine things I plan to complete in 2027 and one resolution I will follow. A few of these I’ve already started.

1) Attend church services again every Sunday (or at least make an effort): I’ve attended church services off on this past year which is more than what I’ve done in previous years. Just not every Sunday like I’m supposed to. I’ve come to the realization, however, if I can’t find anything better to do on Sunday mornings then I might as well spend an hour in God’s house and pray I get through another week at work. Perhaps sometime this year I’ll go to confession. I haven’t been to confession since Christmas Eve 1994. My soul is pretty filthy to quote the nuns I had who taught me at St. Louise de Marillac school in La Grange Park, Ill. which closed after 62 years in 2020. I’ve a feeling my “soul” needs a major cleansing.

2) Blogging: I’ve always planned on doing a weekly blog addressing some topic I want to talk about and not what everyone in the country thinks is the flavor of the day. Time has gotten in the way of that. (I don’t get paid to blog you know!). I have been told by people the past two decades or more how my writing talents are wasted in my current job and continue to be so going on 30 years now though writing is an integral part of my work (I have to take good notes in the tickets even if it just says, “called person – went to voicemail – left message.”) This year is not only time for me to start blogging on a weekly basis but also put my writing where my mouth is and see if my talent takes me somewhere because I’ll be damned if I’m going to do my current job until retirement when there will be no social security for me to collect…which brings me to number 3.

3) Career Change: It’s not too late to make a change no matter how old I am. Money don’t buy happiness. All money does is make you do things you don’t want to do. The secret to enjoying life is doing something you enjoy doing even if it doesn’t pay well. I have no idea what my destiny is, but I know it’s definitely NOT what I’m doing now. It’s time to get a “real” job where I don’t feel like I need to take a vacation from!

4) Classes: I have tried numerous times over the years to take classes but have rarely finished. It’s hard to balance four classes and a 40-hour-a-week job I’m burned out on and yet I am not married with children, nor do I have a girlfriend in state. Yet the classes I’ve attempted to complete feel like I am working an additional 40 hours just to do the classwork. I am registered for four classes again this spring semester. I think the difference now versus previous years is I am more determined to finish my classes this time around and perhaps in the next two years or less get a degree as backup that is in addition to writing/blogging. Those of you, however, who work, are married and/or single with kids and taking four classes or more I have only one question. How the f--- do you do it????

5) Drain the Swamp: When it comes to worldly possessions you don’t take this crap with you when you die. Unless you are an Egyptian who believed like the pharaohs did and had all their possessions buried with them in the pyramids to take to the underworld. I’ve started draining the swamp already. If I can’t get my hands on a lighthouse, which will probably cost me five times more to refurbish than it will be to buy it (I may just have to settle for the LEGO one for $299) I can do with living in a “tiny home” which are equivalent to those trailer parks tornados have intense love affairs with.

6) Eat out less: Not only am I finding eating out is ridiculously expensive but is also overrated. The service half the time sucks. The food looks nothing like what is advertised. Remember the breakfast scene in “Falling Down” (1993)? Hell, the appetizers cost just as much as the meal itself. I’m finding it is cheaper to either eat at home and/or bring your lunch to work. I think this year if I’m going to continue sending my blood sugars skyrocketing and the a1c to stay in the double digits which makes me a viable candidate for a stroke or heart attack I’m going to make it worth my while. In other words, I’ll eat “real” pizza. Cicis, Domino’s, Papa Johns, and Pizza Hut is not “real” pizza. Olive Garden is “egg noodles and ketchup” and I now call Subway “Jared’s.” Do your own research if you don’t know who “Jared” is.

7) Follow a budget: I’ve never set up a monthly budget in my life…until now! Talk about a rude awakening! As the sayings go, it’s not only never too late to start a new career but also never too late to start a budget as well.

8) Go somewhere…anywhere: I’ve not had a “real” vacation in years. I am overdue for one. I need one that can last 1000 years or more. Any ideas other than a trip to “The Undiscovered Country?”

9) Take my health slightly more seriously: While five visits to the hospital since 2015 for diabetes and/or COVID issues have failed to give me pause others I’m sure would wonder if I have a death wish. Fine! I’ll take this “pain-in-the-ass” disease I got more seriously than I have since being diagnosed in 2006, but you know, diabetes is like cancer, HIV/AIDS or any other major life-threatening ailment. It’s a slow death sentence. The medications only work for so long. At least I am no longer a 300-plus-pound whale. I now continue to weigh what I was when I graduated high school in 1988 – 180 - enough to the point I got people asking me if I’m sick. Last week someone I hadn’t seen since the mid-1990s told me how she not only remembered me back when I was overweight but also had hair.

10) Just do it! Hence my number one resolution for 2026. Instead of saying I’m going to do these things on my list that I’ve meant to get to the past several years I’m going to stop saying that and just do them. In other words, JUST DO IT!

Stay tuned to 12/30/26 when I reveal if I completed ALL these things. Or maybe not. After all, nowhere on this list did I mention anything about keeping my promises.

©1/7/26

Ringing in the new year as pointless as the time wasted making resolutions

If there is ever a holiday I don’t believe in celebrating, it’s New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. I find it equivalent to celebrating one’s birthday except I see nothing positive about it since both days mean you are now a year older and, in some cases, deeper in debt.

Not only do I not know the lyrics to “Auld Lang Syne” but I have never actually seen anyone band together to sing it seconds after the clock strikes midnight. I have only seen it happen in disaster movies like "The Poseidon Adventure" (1972) moments before the little boat in a bathtub was capsized by an immense tidal wave. And when Frank Sinatra and his rat pack buddies raided the safes of several Las Vegas casinos in the original "Ocean’s 11" (1960).

When you get right down to it, New Years Eve is nothing more than a petty excuse to go out and get plastered drunk with your friends or family. It’s a chance to watch whoever it is who now hosts the celebrations from New York’s Times Square as the lighted ball comes down at the stroke of midnight.

Perhaps if you are really drunk as a result of the night’s festivities, you might not remember the moment it became Jan. 1. Perhaps you are so inebriated that you ended up kissing a complete stranger and maybe even found yourself in bed with him, her or their pet the next morning.

Or maybe you forgot that list of New Year’s Resolutions already you made just hours earlier.

Yes resolutions – the kinds of goals you set only to break one or all your promises within the baby new year’s first few hours, if not days, weeks, or maybe months before that little infant grows up to be a grouchy old man.

Or do I have to bring up all those fitness commercials I see that air the month of December that urge one to start the new year off by creating the new you?

I can’t tell you how many years, and for all I know I have probably been hearing it since birth, how many times I have heard the statements, “You should make “that” your number one new year’s resolution” and “Have you come up with any resolutions you’d like to focus on for the new year?”

Perhaps the question which should be asked is how many of you as December comes to a close sit down to take less than 30 seconds, (all right a minute) to come up with ten goals or less that you’d like to accomplish in the coming year?  Don’t tell me you actually take such a trivial tradition seriously. I don’t. I don’t think I have ever wasted more than five minutes of my time taking a pointless stroll down memory lane the last week of the year to see what improvements I can make in my life.

Why should I take such a holiday seriously or resolutions for that matter? No one else does. According to a 1/3/11 article on time.com some of the top 10 commonly broken New Year’s resolutions which I have failed to follow on a yearly basis include lose weight and get fit, eat healthier and diet, get out of debt and save money, spend more time with family, and be less stressed.

There is only one reason why we celebrate the new year and no I don’t have time (nor the space here) to giving a history lesson about where New Year's Eve celebrations came from and the different traditions other countries have. You’ll have to do that on your own.

The only reason why we celebrate New Years Eve every 12 months is because that’s how long it takes for the earth to go around the sun. If we lived on Mercury, a typical year would be 88 days according to the website, www.stardate.com. Imagine that! Less than three months, the world gets to party “like it’s 1999” as Prince spoke of in his rock song. If it turns out he or she didn’t keep up with their resolutions of less than three months ago, they can just save the list and try again the next three months. And we wouldn’t have to worry about any cold weather.

What if we lived on Saturn, however, where the time it takes for the ringed planet to go around the sun is 29.5 earth years or in this case 360 months? That’s a long time to wait for New Year’s Eve to come along but if there is any consolation, that’s more than enough time for one to complete his or her resolutions thirty times over. People will have waited to party for so long that they’ll probably want to rest the next 30 years and not worry about making a list of goals. Perhaps the entire world will just take one big, long holiday that lasts the next 29.5 earth years.

I have never accomplished a single New Year's Resolution I have made over the years. Perhaps I’ll start now. The best goals to set are the ones you know you can keep so my one resolution for 2026 which I plan to keep the rest of my life, along with my refusal to celebrate Dec. 31 is I AM NOT MAKING ANY!

Happy New Year!

©12/31/25